情人关系要谈金钱往来吗？这3个真相让你瞬间清醒
<section data-role="uecloud" data-role-node="paragraph" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<br><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 1px solid rgb(255, 110, 99); border-radius: 6px; visibility: visible;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin: 4px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 1px solid rgb(88, 221, 154); border-radius: 6px; visibility: visible;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding: 12px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 103, 92); 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max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“谈钱伤感情”</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">——这句话在情人关系里，被多少人奉为金科玉律。可你有没有想过，</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不谈钱，可能更伤感情</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">？</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">朋友小雅最近分手了。她和男友在一起两年，从没认真谈过钱。吃饭轮流买单，礼物互有往来，看似平衡。直到上个月，男友突然开口借五万块钱，说是家里急用。小雅犹豫了，不是没有，而是不知道这笔钱该以什么名义给。借？还是给？借了要不要写借条？给了会不会显得自己太“倒贴”？一番纠结后，她婉拒了。男友当场脸色就变了，丢下一句 </span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“原来我们的感情就值五万块”</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">，摔门而去。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你看，</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">金钱从来不是感情里的“局外人”</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。它像空气，平时感觉不到，一旦缺失或变质，关系立刻窒息。</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<br></p><section data-role="uecloud" data-role-node="title" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; 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height: auto; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding: 3px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background: rgb(210, 14, 24); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding: 6px 12px 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; border: 1px solid rgb(252, 254, 177); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(254, 236, 162); letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span data-role-type="text" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不谈钱的“体面”，可能只是海市蜃楼</span></section></section></section><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); 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outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin-bottom: -10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 40px; display: inline-block; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><img data-src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_gif/I1fyHmvzZiaX5oD1Bgk6NMQDadCzSN1MZic8xJ9M5IsAID0HHhkHic4OS1ojl6K8qBbt8qnUOV5l6SnDWJddbDwRg/640?from=appmsg#imgIndex=7" class="rich_pages wxw-img __bg_gif" data-ratio="0.5272727272727272" data-w="55" data-aistatus="1" data-original-style="width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;" data-index="9" _width="100%" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_gif/I1fyHmvzZiaX5oD1Bgk6NMQDadCzSN1MZic8xJ9M5IsAID0HHhkHic4OS1ojl6K8qBbt8qnUOV5l6SnDWJddbDwRg/640?from=appmsg" data-order="1" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; height: auto; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important; width: 55px !important;"></section></section><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 1px solid rgb(255, 110, 99); border-radius: 6px; visibility: visible;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin: 4px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 1px solid rgb(88, 221, 154); border-radius: 6px; visibility: visible;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding: 12px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 103, 92); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role-type="paragraph" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role-type="text" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们总想维持一种“纯粹”。仿佛一提到钱，爱情就沾上了铜臭，变得不高级、不浪漫。于是，很多人选择“默契”——这次你请，下次我来；你送我礼物，我回赠等价的东西。表面风平浪静，底下却暗流汹涌。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这种“体面”经不起任何风浪。</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 一次超出常规的消费，一场突如其来的经济危机，就能让所有心照不宣的规则瞬间崩塌。那时你会发现，你们之间根本没有建立起关于金钱的沟通语言。除了尴尬、猜忌和委屈，一无所有。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">更可怕的是，</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">金钱观是价值观最直接的投射</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。一个人如何赚钱、如何花钱、如何看待财富，几乎定义了他的生活方式和人生追求。如果你们从未就金钱进行过深度对话，你怎么敢肯定，你们是“一路人”？</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他可能觉得攒钱买房是头等大事，你却认为体验世界更重要；他可能习惯精打细算，你却信奉及时行乐。</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这些分歧不会因为你们不谈就自动消失，它们只会在未来的某一天，以更激烈的方式爆发出来。</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<br></p><section data-role="uecloud" data-role-node="title" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; 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padding: 3px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background: rgb(210, 14, 24); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding: 6px 12px 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; border: 1px solid rgb(252, 254, 177); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(254, 236, 162); letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span data-role-type="text" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">金钱往来，是关系的“压力测试”</span></section></section></section><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin-top: -8px; margin-left: 4px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 4px; height: 4px; align-self: flex-start; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><img data-src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_png/I1fyHmvzZiaXqWLwTRoib4mcGgQXe0uyNTMw3PEcgY9dZol06xlmmEjqQR64heOco7p1TKcTQ23IDpfqdB0lRePQ/640?from=appmsg#imgIndex=11" class="rich_pages wxw-img" data-ratio="1" data-w="8" data-aistatus="1" data-original-style="null" data-index="13" _width="8px" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_png/I1fyHmvzZiaXqWLwTRoib4mcGgQXe0uyNTMw3PEcgY9dZol06xlmmEjqQR64heOco7p1TKcTQ23IDpfqdB0lRePQ/640?from=appmsg" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); 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outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<br></p><section data-role="uecloud" data-role-node="paragraph" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin-bottom: -10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 40px; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><img data-src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_gif/I1fyHmvzZiaX5oD1Bgk6NMQDadCzSN1MZic8xJ9M5IsAID0HHhkHic4OS1ojl6K8qBbt8qnUOV5l6SnDWJddbDwRg/640?from=appmsg#imgIndex=13" class="rich_pages wxw-img __bg_gif" data-ratio="0.5272727272727272" data-w="55" data-aistatus="1" data-original-style="width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;" data-index="15" _width="100%" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_gif/I1fyHmvzZiaX5oD1Bgk6NMQDadCzSN1MZic8xJ9M5IsAID0HHhkHic4OS1ojl6K8qBbt8qnUOV5l6SnDWJddbDwRg/640?from=appmsg" data-order="2" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important; width: 55px !important;"></section></section><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 1px solid rgb(255, 110, 99); border-radius: 6px;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin: 4px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 1px solid rgb(88, 221, 154); border-radius: 6px;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding: 12px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 103, 92); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role-type="paragraph" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role-type="text" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这不是鼓励大家锱铢必较，而是说，</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">健康的金钱往来，是关系的黏合剂，而非腐蚀剂。</strong></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">怎么谈？不是一上来就查对方账户，也不是规定每笔开销必须AA。那太生硬了。真正的“谈”，是</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在具体的事情中，建立规则和共识</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如，日常开销怎么处理？是设立一个共同账户，每月两人按收入比例存入，用于房租、水电、吃饭？还是轮流负责不同板块？</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">大额支出如何决策？</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 比如想一起出国旅行，预算超了谁来做决定？</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一方遇到经济困难，另一方的支持边界在哪里？</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 是力所能及的帮助，还是倾囊相助？如果是借，是否需要凭证？</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">谈这些，谈的不是钱，是信任、责任和未来。</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 它像一次压力测试，检验你们是否愿意为这段关系的“基础设施”共同投入，是否具备解决复杂问题的能力。能通过这个测试的关系，往往更扎实、更经得起风雨。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那些一谈钱就翻脸、就指责你“现实”、“算计”的人，也许真正害怕的，是关系的透明化，是自身责任的具体化。</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">真正的爱，从来不怕落在实处。</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<br></p><section data-role="uecloud" data-role-node="title" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding-top: 5px; padding-bottom: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: flex-start; align-items: center; flex-direction: column; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin-bottom: -4px; margin-left: 4px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 4px; height: 4px; align-self: flex-start; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; z-index: 1; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><img data-src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_png/I1fyHmvzZiaXqWLwTRoib4mcGgQXe0uyNTjic7CrTREgdAp5icaxibtrYbbzZuPv4EiclcTaP11LDTNuS3GLTvRdDypA/640?from=appmsg#imgIndex=15" class="rich_pages wxw-img" data-ratio="1" data-w="8" data-aistatus="1" data-original-style="null" data-index="17" _width="8px" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_png/I1fyHmvzZiaXqWLwTRoib4mcGgQXe0uyNTjic7CrTREgdAp5icaxibtrYbbzZuPv4EiclcTaP11LDTNuS3GLTvRdDypA/640?from=appmsg" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: bottom; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin-right: 4px; margin-bottom: -8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 4px; height: 4px; align-self: flex-end; z-index: 1; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><img data-src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_png/I1fyHmvzZiaXqWLwTRoib4mcGgQXe0uyNTYtL1d6NkPX9QdfYC3dibIu0pKCS58Uuv3mwc3ogLTIhZpiaft9j2Atibw/640?from=appmsg#imgIndex=16" class="rich_pages wxw-img" data-ratio="1" data-w="8" data-aistatus="1" data-original-style="null" data-index="18" _width="8px" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_png/I1fyHmvzZiaXqWLwTRoib4mcGgQXe0uyNTYtL1d6NkPX9QdfYC3dibIu0pKCS58Uuv3mwc3ogLTIhZpiaft9j2Atibw/640?from=appmsg" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: bottom; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding: 3px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background: rgb(210, 14, 24); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding: 6px 12px 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; border: 1px solid rgb(252, 254, 177); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(254, 236, 162); letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span data-role-type="text" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比“谈不谈”更重要的，是“怎么谈”</span></section></section></section><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin-top: -8px; margin-left: 4px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 4px; height: 4px; align-self: flex-start; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><img data-src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_png/I1fyHmvzZiaXqWLwTRoib4mcGgQXe0uyNTMw3PEcgY9dZol06xlmmEjqQR64heOco7p1TKcTQ23IDpfqdB0lRePQ/640?from=appmsg#imgIndex=17" class="rich_pages wxw-img" data-ratio="1" data-w="8" data-aistatus="1" data-original-style="null" data-index="19" _width="8px" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_png/I1fyHmvzZiaXqWLwTRoib4mcGgQXe0uyNTMw3PEcgY9dZol06xlmmEjqQR64heOco7p1TKcTQ23IDpfqdB0lRePQ/640?from=appmsg" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); 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outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<br></p><section data-role="uecloud" data-role-node="paragraph" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: ";P<section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin-bottom: -10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section nodeleaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 40px; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><img data-src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_gif/I1fyHmvzZiaX5oD1Bgk6NMQDadCzSN1MZic8xJ9M5IsAID0HHhkHic4OS1ojl6K8qBbt8qnUOV5l6SnDWJddbDwRg/640?from=appmsg#imgIndex=19" class="rich_pages wxw-img __bg_gif" data-ratio="0.5272727272727272" data-w="55" data-original-style="width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;" data-index="21" _width="100%" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_gif/I1fyHmvzZiaX5oD1Bgk6NMQDadCzSN1MZic8xJ9M5IsAID0HHhkHic4OS1ojl6K8qBbt8qnUOV5l6SnDWJddbDwRg/640?from=appmsg" data-order="3" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important; width: 55px !important;"></section></section><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 1px solid rgb(255, 110, 99); border-radius: 6px;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); margin: 4px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 1px solid rgb(88, 221, 154); border-radius: 6px;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); padding: 12px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 103, 92); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role-type="paragraph" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role-type="text" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，问题从来不是“要不要谈”，而是 </span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“如何优雅地、有效地谈”</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第一，选对时机。</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 不要在争吵时、或对方经济窘迫时谈钱，那像趁火打劫。可以在一次愉快的约会后，两人都放松时，以分享未来规划的方式自然引入。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第二，聚焦“我们”，而非“你和我”。</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 不要说“你花钱太大手大脚了”，而是说“我们未来的购房计划，可能需要我们调整一下现在的消费习惯，你觉得呢？” </span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">把金钱问题，转化为共同目标下的协作问题。</strong></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第三，坦诚自己的感受和底线。</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> “我家里以前因为钱的事闹过不愉快，所以我对借钱比较敏感，希望你能理解。” </span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">暴露自己的脆弱，往往能换来对方的理解和共情。</strong></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第四，从小处实践，逐步建立信任。</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 可以从一起计划一次周末短途旅行开始，共同商定预算、分工，体验一次“财务合作”的成功。良好的正反馈，会让下一次更深入的交流变得顺理成章。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">记住，</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">金钱在情人关系里，最好的角色不是“主人”，也不是“禁忌”，而是一位“翻译官”</strong><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。它把模糊的好感，翻译成清晰的付出；把空口的承诺，翻译成可见的规划；把潜在的差异，翻译成可讨论的议题。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一段敢于谈钱的关系，才配得上谈论未来。</strong></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那些在金钱面前闪闪躲躲、一触即溃的感情，或许本就建立在流沙之上。而经得起金钱检验的亲密，才能让我们在现实世界里，真正地携手并肩。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span leaf="" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，别再回避了。找个时间，和你爱的人，好好谈谈钱吧。这或许，是你们能给彼此的最实在的浪漫。</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p></p>
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